A narcissist is a person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves according to Oxford dictionary. Personality qualities include thinking very highly of oneself, needing admiration, believing others are inferior and lacking empathy for others
5 Signs you are dating a narcissist
1.They are very charming when you first meet. Your relationship at first feels like a fairy tale, everything is perfect. He/she makes you feel special by complimenting everything about you.If someone cames on too strong at the beginning of a relationship, be cautious. Being lusted feels good but genuine love has to be nurtured and grown overtime.
2. They lack empathy. Empathy is the ability of one to put themselves in your shoes and try to understand how you actually feel. Narcissist lack this quality and often never pay much attention to how the other person feels. In a situation where they offend you, they never apologize because they don’t understand how much their action affects you. This also makes it difficult for them to take responsibility for their own behavior.
3. They rarely have close friends. It is common for people with narcissistic traits to have frequent conflicts with others.They are very jealous and possessive and would get angry if you hang out with your friends consequently causing you to abandon your friends and end up lonely.
4. They often gaslight you.This is a psychological manipulation into doubting ones own sanity. Often narcissists seek to gain power and control youby distorting reality and forcing you to question your own judgment and intuition. They would abuse you and twist things to make appear that you are too sensitive.
5. Constantly pick on you. It begins as a tease but later escalates to saying mean things to make you feel bad about yourself. He/she will criticize how you dress or your reasoning so as to make you feel inferior. By doing so they feel powerful at your expense.
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