We always feel the desire to be loved by those we love and often don’t get the same energy back. Could it be you are just a plan B or you are too ambitious in your expectations.

People love differently but sometimes it is so obvious you are not that important to them as you would want to be. Even though some people are poor in expressing how they actually feel, that should never be an excuse for inducing anxiety on your partner.

The conflicting emotions you are feeling are indicators you are not satisfied with what you are getting from your partner. Your mind is always wondering why can’t he/she just give me the little attention I need and frequently a thought pops in your mind to just move on but your heart won’t let you leave in peace.

Let me tell you for free, if they love you your soul will know automatically. That girl who always texts you when they are in need, does not care about you. You are just a person they run to when they can’t get what they want from their actual boyfriend’s. For how long will you be a hero saving someone’s lover? They only entertain you when they are not in good terms with their boyfriend. Wake up!

Baby girl you have been made to believe he doesn’t like calls and chatting, You are always the first to text. Trust me he texts his girl every time and calls more often than he can control himself. As for you your message has been ignored since morning because he is too “busy”. I don’t know what other red flag you are waiting for before you realize you are just a back up if not a fling.

I know you are asking yourself how will I know if I fall under the plan B category, well just trust your instincts. If the energy does not feel right, you have your answer. You are never the first to know about their achievements if not their plans. Communication with them will always feel forced and often you are the one speaking while they just respond but will not put effort to mantain the conversation.

Now that you know you are not first choice, what can you do about it? Well, some will choose to stay and fight for the first spot. The question is, do you have the energy to break all the barriers before you? Are you careful enough not to destroy yourself in the process? What if you never get there?

Advice I would give myself is, why waste your time and energy breaking a wall while there is a door? There is someone out there waiting to have you and make you the centre of their universe. Defend yourself.