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Toxicity: 8 Signs you are in a toxic relationship

Relationships are meant to be enjoyable and fun but in a situation where you find out you don’t find joy or constantly under stress, then there is a problem.
They say ‘love is blind’ but when you become aware of your environment and understand the Dynamics of a healthy relationship, it is not that hard to spot an abnormality.

This article will point out a few common pointers of a toxic relationship.

8 signs you are in a toxic relationship

1. Constant suspicion and mistrust

It is normal to experience jealousy in a relationship but it becomes a problem when it gets to the extreme. This can stem from the fact that your partner is a ‘serial cheater’ so one is constantly worrying that he/she is cheating consequently leading to mistrust.

2. Poor communication

Good communication is the connerstone of any relationship. Couples should be able to speak freely about any issue without fear. In a toxic relationship one is always careful and would often avoid difficult issues because their partner will not take it well.

3. Controlling behaviors

They would always want to know where you are or what you are doing at all times. It may seem romantic at first but it gets to a point you nolonger do anything without seeking permission. Victims always end up being prisoners to a toxic individual.

4. Ignoring your needs

Everyone has needs whether emotional, physical or financial. In a toxic relationship, you will find that your needs are not given any attention as it is deemed irrelevant. For example you would wish to go for a vacation but he suggests you go to his/her friends for a party because that is what they need.

5. Low self esteem

This often arises from the fact that your partner is constantly critizing everything about you. From your mode of dressing, body shape or even your opinions and thoughts.

6. Constant conflicts

Conflicts are common in relationships but in a situation where you just cannot seem to talk about anything without arguing even just what to eat for lunch, that is unhealthy. You are never on the same page on anything.

7. Disrespect

This can range from shouting at you when in public to ridiculing you in private. Respect is very important in a relationship as it determines how your partner will treat you. Without respect they can even slap you in front of your friends without an apparent reason.

8. Physical abuse

No matter the situation physical abuse is never to be tolerated in any relationship. The abuse usually starts small and then escalate to thorough beatings that sometimes lead to death. If your partner can afford to physically assault you then that is not a healthy relationship.

It should be noted that when someone finds such issues in a relationship they should discuss it with there partner and find a solution but in a situation that nothing is changing just walk away.

Who is a narcissist? 5 signs you are dating one

A narcissist is a person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves according to Oxford dictionary. Personality qualities include thinking very highly of oneself, needing admiration, believing others are inferior and lacking empathy for others

5 Signs you are dating a narcissist

1.They are very charming when you first meet. Your relationship at first feels like a fairy tale, everything is perfect. He/she makes you feel special by complimenting everything about you.If someone cames on too strong at the beginning of a relationship, be cautious. Being lusted feels good but genuine love has to be nurtured and grown overtime.

2. They lack empathy. Empathy is the ability of one to put themselves in your shoes and try to understand how you actually feel. Narcissist lack this quality and often never pay much attention to how the other person feels. In a situation where they offend you, they never apologize because they don’t understand how much their action affects you. This also makes it difficult for them to take responsibility for their own behavior.

3. They rarely have close friends. It is common for people with narcissistic traits to have frequent conflicts with others.They are very jealous and possessive and would get angry if you hang out with your friends consequently causing you to abandon your friends and end up lonely.

4. They often gaslight you.This is a psychological manipulation into doubting ones own sanity. Often narcissists seek to gain power and control youby distorting reality and forcing you to question your own judgment and intuition. They would abuse you and twist things to make appear that you are too sensitive.

5. Constantly pick on you. It begins as a tease but later escalates to saying mean things to make you feel bad about yourself. He/she will criticize how you dress or your reasoning so as to make you feel inferior. By doing so they feel powerful at your expense.

Is she into me? 10 signs she loves you

Have you been eyeing a lady and wondering if she feels the same way about you? Some men find it hard to understand women and end up not spotting signs that they like them back.

This article will give you signs to be on the look out for inorder to know if what you are feeling is mutual. Here are the 10 most common and universal signs that she might be into you.

10 signs she loves you

1. Fidgets/ plays with her hair. This is because she is nervous around you and that is a good sign. Whenever you are around her she doesn’t know what to do and starts playing with her hair, nails or even touching objects close to her.

2. She notices you and smiles. This comes naturally because she likes you. Smiling sheepishly when you talk to her or sit next to her is a sure sign she is feeling your vibe.

3. She initiates touch and physical contact. She will find a reason to touch you and this can be in the form of resting her head in your shoulder when you are seated next to her or Giving you a lingering hug.

4. Highly motivated to look for you and spend time with you. You must agree that asking a girl out is a hard task because they play hard to get often. If she easily agrees to go on that first date without you sweating, then you have already found a way into her heart.

5. Texts first. We can all agree that chances of a girl texting first is very rare but if she initiates conversations with you to the extent she texts first, Congratulations you have been noticed.

6. Showing you her silly side. Girls will always strive to portray a calm sophisticated side of her. If she does silly staff around you like singing loudly to her favourite music not minding how she sounds or dancing around she is comfortable around you and doesn’t mind you seeing the other side of her.

7. She teases you. Teasing is a low-risk way to catalyze the intimacy of a conversation since it allows people to get into personal staff while still keeping things on the lighter side.So, take note if a woman is ribbing you about your football team or tickling you,there is a high chance she likes you.

 8.Her friends and family know about you. Many people are shooting their shots at her and therefore she will only tell her friends about you when you are special to her. If her friends already know about you even before meeting them, you are lucky she is obviously considering you for a relationship.

9.She opens up to you. She will tell you every little detail about her life. Being comfortable to confide in you is a clue she is into you and will always encourage you to do the same by asking about your life.

10. Interested in your dating life. If you find her inquiring about your dating life then that is a clue she is into you. She will also ask about your female friends and how often you interact with them.