Words a man would use when he loves you

Sometimes we find ourselves in situations where we can’t tell if he loves you. Being uncertain will always bring about insecurities and we would always strive to find out if they actually feel the same way. The fact that you are thinking about it stems from you loving them already and would like to know if you mean something to him.

This article will focus on words commonly used by men in love. This will serve as a pointer towards knowing if you are ‘the one’ or you are expecting love from someone who does not even have feelings for you.

8 words he would use if he loves you

1. I love you

These are very powerful words in any relationship, whether you are starting off or you have been dating for a while, a man who loves you will always say these words. He might not say it right away probably because he is afraid of scaring you or he is contemplating the right time to say it but either way if he loves you he will eventually say it. It is a major red flag if he never says those words at all. One very important thing to note is, does he personalize the words? For example unapendwa( you are loved) and nakupenda( I love you) are two different things. Personalization of the words will indicate that that is what he actually feels about you and not general words.

2. How are you feeling

This shows that he cares about you and he is interested to know how you are doing. He is curious about what you are thinking and would love to know more about you. Sometimes you note that in the beginning of the relationship he would ask and then he eventually stops, well, you might me the problem. The response you give influences if he will ask again or drop it. For example you reply by saying “am good” Everytime he asks with time he will stop because it’s not yielding the results he anticipated.

3. I am on my way

When a man loves you, he will always feel the urge to come to your rescue. You tell him you are not doing fine or you have a problem he will always find a way to help you out even if it means dropping what he was doing and coming over to help you. In some scenerios maybe he is not able to come over but he will ensure that he gives you a solution or compensate as soon as he can. For example your car broke down and you call him, he will come over to take care of the situation or send someone over if he can’t make it himself.

4. Talk to me

Communication is a very important component in any relationship and him taking time to communicate with you signifies that he enjoys talking to you and would love to bond. If he calls you often it means he enjoys listening to you and it makes him happy just talking to you. You might not have anything important to talk about but those small boring details of your day interest him then he actually loves you.

5. I want to make you happy

Men would naturally strive to see the one they love happy, we have seen some sacrifice the little they have just to make her happy. He would always look for ways to ensure that you are happy because they are happier when she is happy. The effort they put into this is what signifies that they value and love you. For example buying gifts for her or even giving her financial support to ensure that she does not struggle.

6. We, Us

This words signifies that he is including you in his plans and you are a team. A man who truly loves you will always strive to make you parts of his plans and when talking about them he will use the words “we” or “us” rather than “I”. For example “I want us to move to a new house” and not “I want to move to a new house”. Being keen on the words he uses while making his plans will inform you of your position in his life.

7. She is my girlfriend/ wife

If he puts a label on your relationship then you are safe, he loves you. Never ever make assumptions that just because you do things what a boyfriend girlfriend do he is your boyfriend. It is very important to hear him say that and get the words straight from his mouth. There are instances where she makes an assumption that he is her boyfriend without him saying and when it comes to a situation where she tries to hold him accountable, he is like ” who said am your boyfriend?”

8. I need to see you

A man who loves you will always want to spend time with you. He will always strive and yarn to be close to you whether it is over at his house on going out on a nature walk or a date. It is a red flag if he never asks you to visit him or only asks for your presence when it’s convenient for him. He might be busy but trust me someone who loves you will fit you into their schedule. No one is ever too busy to see the one they care about.

It is important to note that he might not use the exact words but something close to that. There are some situations where he may find it hard to express himself probably because of previous experiences but that should never be an excuse. Don’t forget that he is also human and he is not perfect. What are your thoughts?